This is a common worry that I see in most of us, sorry to mention there is no age barrier. To my surprise, even elders have this phobia, “What will they think of me?” This has become a serious issue which is not letting most of us be the way we wanna be to or talk the way we wanna talk.
“Don’t’ care what others think about you” is easier said than DONE. But wouldn’t you like some tips to overcome this issue?
IGNORE – it is just 6 letter word, but creates wonders. Ignore what people talk about you. People will talk about you today, tomorrow or for next 1 month? Let them. Definitely, they will get bored of you (provided you don’t react) one day and they jump onto others or they will find a new topic:-P
People don’t dare – What I’ve personally observed is nobody has guts to talk negatively to you about you. All they do is talk behind your back – Why do you have to care in that case? It anyway stays behind your back and doesn’t come to your notice. Appreciate the ones who talk to you frankly – they are leaving you room to discuss with them and improve. Please ignore those people who come to you and say, “I heard about you through someone”. Trust me they are just having fun. If they really know what you are, they will not discuss with you about the rumor.
Better things in Life – This is a very beneficial tip. Every time you sit down and give time to these thoughts,“ on what people think” check the amount of energy you are wasting. Had you put the same energy in achieving your goals, not just goals, your hobbies or anything that makes you feel pleasant, you would have been much happier, wouldn’t you?
You are not a slave – Please ask yourself, why am I dependent on others’ approval? How can others decide your mood or your emotions?! Do you think it’s right? Our happiness is in our hands. We should be the rulers of our own emotions and not others.
Will they help you in need? – These “others” that you worry about – will they come out and lend a helping hand when you are truly in need? If they WON’T, how do they even matter? They should not consume your precious mental space eve f they are not there for you in your difficult times.
I have encountered many situations in life where, because of some one’s deeds or words my impression went wrong (both in personal & professional life). I always tell myself that Actions speak a lot better than words. People might talk bullshit about you, but when they see your behavior they will truly understand what you are.
I would only say, Learn to gain respect rather than impression. Respect stays forever, but impression changes once your behavior changes. Truly be yourself. Love yourself. I’m sure you will start loving life.
P.S : My sincere request to the parents, please teach your kids on how to overcome this issue, else they struggle after they grow up. Beware, they’re watching you! They do what you do, not what you tell them to do.
